I recently read this really great article by Clementine Ford on why asking, “can we have it all?” is a daft question. And it IS a daft question. It applies to so few people in the world really!
And yet, I, and many of my friends, are caught in this balancing act of how to manage our lives – children, partners, parents, family, friends, work, houses to run and of course our selves to look after. For me at least, the scales tip in various directions depending on what needs the most attention. My children will, as long as they are small in particular, be my priority. They’re a noisy, lovable, ever present priority.
I try to think of what enriches my soul though and spend the time with the people and pursuits that do that. There certainly are not enough hours in the day for me to read all I want, see who I want to see, do all I want to do. This space is evidence of all those things.
The thing I have been absolutely terrible at doing though is looking after myself physically. I skip meals, rarely exercise, eat way too much chocolate and drink too much coffee. As my boys grow, I realise what a bad example I’m setting.
The universe has a way of hitting us over the head when we need to re prioritise though. I’ve had a headache for 8 days now and over the weekend was rendered almost entirely useless. And so, it’s clear that I need to refocus on being better to the vessel that hosts “me” … This strange old body I’ve neglected for most of my adult life. It is time to focus on Pilates, yoga, meditating, eating better and all those things I promised myself I would commit to “one day”. Even my hair and clothes need some attention.
It’s time to tip the balance back a bit towards me.
Where is your balance at? Have any tips for me on how to maintain this balance or integrate it in to my life on a long term basis?