My three hobbies – reading, cooking and embroidery are for me, a form of meditation. Not that I shouldn’t learn to meditate properly mind you (and I must!). Depending on my frame of mind they either still or focus my mind and occasionally, in the midst of something, I get enormous clarity. It’s why “finding” time to do these things is so important to me.
One such moment of clarity came recently. I’m finding the balancing act of work/family/the rest very tricky at the moment. I’m not alone in this that’s for sure. I need to be more ruthless at what I say yes to which his hard for a people pleaser like me. And to be honest, I’ve been much better since having children at saying no to the things I don’t want to do. Mostly, when I say yes it’s because I want to. Fitting it all “in” to my life is another matter but I’ve been better. Mainly because instead of using the word, “no” I decided on softer words like, “not today” or, “I’m not sure I can.”
No, the person I really learn to say, “No” to is well, me. It’s my expectations, my inner dialogue that needs to be managed, shushed and put into perspective. I suspect that is a harder battle to win.